Taking time for reflection for yourself and your family can be very valuable. I encourage my clients to talk about a challenging situation with their kids when everyone is calm and the situation is no longer a trigger. This can help your child take the time to process what happened and give it enough space so that they are no longer feeling strong emotions of anger, shame and/or guilt.
The questions I encourage you to reflect on with your children are:
How did that make you feel?
What could've been different?
What would've been a better choice?
What went well?
Reflection allows for problem solving. It's important to make sure it's a conversation and your child feels heard. You can use this reflection worksheet to help your child reflect on the situation, consider who was harmed and how to repair.
If you feel that taking a moment to reflect is not possible, please reach out for support.